I’m not actually sure on where to start with this one. It’s been half term so I’ve been a little quiet on here, working and juggling being a super mum to my 2 amazing kids. This morning I read an article from earlier this week that actually left me speechless for some time. I was catching up on the news whilst laying in bed and decided to go and have a bath whilst I pondered what I had to say about it. Even the very act of bathing after reading the article shows how it made me feel. You can read the article, I’ve linked it above, I’m just going to go over it piece by piece and explain what true “Moral Responsibility” is.
“Some rape victims have a “moral responsibility” for their fate, a leading barrister has suggested.”
Firstly I’d be interested to know which rape victims Barbara Hewson is pigeon-holing into this category? It’s just as offensive of the news reader that spoke of a particular “serious rape” all rape is serious and all rape is rape… it is the act of forcing someone to have sex against their will, without consent. No one rape victim is different from another, they all have this utter violation forced upon them, whether they are drunk, gay, sexually active, a prostitute, married, single, an 80 year old woman, a college student or a child… it is all rape and it is all 100% the responsibility & accountability of the perpetrator, no one else made it happen to them, it was not a choice that they, or I made.
“She also expressed doubts over the “long term damaging effects” of rape and criticised the view that the offence was “morally absolutely unambiguous” with the victim “utterly innocent” and the “victimiser … utterly guilty”.”
My first reaction to this is venom and anger, I want to shout and swear but I shall not. There is absolutely NO DOUBT over the long term damaging effects of rape. It affects even the strongest of women, forever. What does happen with time is that you find your voice, you understand your feelings and you can deal with it better. Time does not however make it go away. The article then expands on her comments on this one which just renders me so exasperated I’ve had to shut myself off in a quiet room to write this, otherwise it will be simmering underneath my surface for the rest of the day and I don’t want it to impact on my Sunday with my family!
“some rape victims spent too much time blaming failings in their personal and professional lives on their ordeals, adding: “It becomes the cause of everything that goes wrong in life.”
Do you know how hard it actually is to come back from a rape fighting?! I have been fortunate to have an amazing family, fantastic support network of friends and colleagues but not everyone is that fortunate. Whilst we’re on the subject of “Moral Responsibility” Barbara Hewson, let me tell you that you are morally responsible for the silencing of rape victims, you are morally responsible for it affecting their work and personal lives, YOU and anyone that agrees with the utter tripe you have spouted this week are responsible. When you are raped, you have something stolen from you that you cannot get back, it’s not just the violation of the act, it takes away your trust in human kind, your ability to feel safe, your self worth, self esteem and self belief. How can victims of rape believe in themselves again when people like you are blaming them.
This little nugget actually made me laugh in disbelief:
“It seems to me, simply factually, we all know if you’re drunk you are more likely to have accidents. So if you fall off a bar stool and hit you head and have a serous brain injury because you’re drunk people are gong to say well you chose to be drunk.”
First off, for a barrister, in this quote alone you have just insulted your own intelligence. Let me go back to the dictionary to spell this one out for you:
ac•ci•dent (ˈæk sɪ dənt)
n.
1. an undesirable or unfortunate happening that occurs unintentionally and usually results in injury, damage, or loss.
2. an incident that results in injury, in no way the fault of the victim, for which compensation or indemnity is legally sought.
3. any event that happens unexpectedly, without a deliberate plan or cause.
So you see, I would not blame the person that had fallen off their bar stool resulting in them having a serious brain injury because it was an accident. And lets just look back at the word MORAL. I was brought up with morals, I have strong morals about what is right and what is wrong, for instance if someone was left with brain damage after an accident I would not blame them for being drunk, it would not even cross my mind to think well what an idiot they shouldn’t have been drunk it’s their own fault…. because unlike you I have morals. Furthermore, likening the rape of someone who is intoxicated, to whatever degree, to falling of a stool by accident is disrespectful, shameful and ludicrous. Firstly an accident is just that, an accident. Rape however is not, it is the choice of the perpetrator and him alone. Let me just clarify that one more time… Rape is NOT an accident.
“So it does seem to me something a little sanitised about the idea that (when discussing rape) we cannot even have a discussion about the moral responsibility whatever people may want to say about the legal responsibility.”
Yes, oh yes we can discuss moral responsibility. The legal responsibility is completely and utterly with the rapist. The moral responsibility is with society, it’s with mother’s, father’s, teachers, politicians, and yes barristers. It’s a parent’s moral responsibility to teach their son’s not to rape, to openly talk to them about what is wrong and right when it comes to sex and consent. It is also the moral responsibility of teachers and politicians to
teach our children about healthy sexual relationships unfortunately this is another thing the government didn’t pass. We all have a social moral responsibility to say that rape is wrong and whilst people don’t, it is condoned, down-played, excused. You will do well to read and digest the content and watch the
videos on my previous post Miss Hewson.
“Miss Hewson has also previously called for the age of consent to be lowered to 13 and criticised the “witch-hunt” of ageing celebrities accused of sexual abuse.”
There is only one thing to say on this, and that is you disgust me. You are a disgrace to womankind and humankind. Your attention seeking propaganda is just that. YOU should be ashamed of yourself, but I very much doubt you will be.